Renewal Weekends (For Couples AND Singles!)
Many people have voiced a concern to me that they feel stagnant in their relationship with their spouse or partner. The story is usually the same for each couple, straight, unmarried or gay.
I have had couples tell me they have not made love in years! They tell me they miss sexual activity but on one level don’t even care anymore! One gentleman told me he has not had sex with his wife for 25 years and remains faithful and unhappily married to her! He said he is so depressed about this he constantly contemplates running away and even suicide!
This is an extreme case and the issues run much deeper than I will cover in this writing.
Generally speaking, both people in the “stale” relationship are challenged with the loss of interest at a mental, emotional and sexual level. Life has become routine, from work, to play to home and in the bedroom. Fast living is costing us on EVERY level!
What happened to the spark and that sense of excitement? I have listened to people of all ages make remarks that they don’t expect it to be better than this and the state of boredom just comes with the issue of living year after year with the same person. We know each other so well it becomes boring.
NOT TRUE! Clear, cancel and delete those statements!
The issue is not that the person sitting across from you is boring, or that life is so routine that it has also become boring; it is a matter of a missing link!
The “missing link” is SELF LOVE!
What did you say to yourself the last time you were talking to yourself? If you made a huge mistake at work today and the boss chewed you out, what would your self talk sound like? Would you agree with the chewing out and “out chew” your boss? Or, would you forgive and comfort yourself and put energy toward correcting the mistake?
Think about this! What do you say to yourself when the pressure is on? Most people would be thrown in jail for domestic violence if self talk could be prosecuted in a court of law!
Being a Hado Instructor I know the destructive powers of that! I also know the amazing global and universal healing affect SELF LOVE has!
Humanity is currently dealing with duality. That is where we are in our spiritual evolution until we make new decisions. Most of us would jump at the opportunity to have paradise back! Nearly everyone says they would love to have peace on Earth! That same group says they don’t believe it’s possible because they believe humanity is too warlike and selfish!
It is not possible to change a system from the outside in! The ONLY way to change anything is from within! Every religion tells us that! “Seek ye first the kingdom of God (the kingdom within you) and all the rest shall follow”, the money, the loving relationships, the peace and joy!
Gandhi says, “BE the change you wish to see in the world!” That is not a light weight comment! It is THE one and only TRUTH to peace and healing for humanity! It is also the key to a happy relationship!
Self love! Say that out loud! Do you cringe? Does that feel arrogant? Does that sound odd or warped? Does it have any meaning for you or make any sense? Does it sound wrong? All these questions I have heard as comments from people who struggle with finding joy and even health in their lives!
This year I have been speaking across this country and Canada about SELF LOVE being THE key to GLOBAL PEACE!
Peace begins within us! Unforgiven states, ideas of right and wrong, resentment, anger, low self-worth, huge ego, the list goes on and on; there are numbers of ways we sabotage our global peace!
So, where do we start?
Give yourself permission to be as loving to yourself as you were to anyone or anything you have ever loved! Don’t look at the long term picture of this; just go for the next hour! Then the whole day! One day at a time be committed to being as loving and as nice as you can be to you! No rules! No limits!
Buying yourself something you cannot afford is NOT loving! Eating your favorite foods if you are struggling with weight is NOT loving! Balancing your budget and giving yourself a daily allowance would be loving and taking a walk around the block instead a walk from the couch to the refrigerator is loving!
Then celebrate your small victories. Keep a journal and jot down the things you did to be loving to yourself. No huge novels, brief is GREAT! Make it as simple and easy as possible!
Do this for one week! NO HUGE PROJECT!
Putting huge goals out there is a set up for failure and another reason to “yell” at yourself!
When we are loving to ourselves it automatically “sheds” from us onto others!
When we fill our thoughts with love and gratitude it changes our DNA along with the vibrations of energy we are emitting into the world like a radio station, and it literally assists in lowering the harshness of daily living in the world!
Princeton University has done studies on this energy for years! Dr. Masaru Emoto, my colleague and friend, has given lectures all over the world on this very issue!
We all could use a break from the hectic pace of our lives.
Taking a weekend off to devote to the healing of self, a marriage, couple relationship, is a huge tool to bringing peace and joy back into ANY relationship.
Does one weekend fix it ALL! No! It is a first step. Awareness is the first step. The information we get from stopping and looking at what we created, and are creating by our life patterns, is an essential ingredient to changing our lives from bored to brilliant!
Physically and environmentally there are issues that also create a stale relationship. Toxic bodies, hormone imbalance, toxic environments all are contributing factors. Sounds like a lot of work, it reality it is not.
The first question is:
“What would my life FEEL like if I had a healthy body, healthy partner, we both had great interests, were happy and vibrant and sexually attracted to each other again?”
Asking that question I hear many people negate the whole idea with comments that it isn’t possible to get two people that devoted to make the changes needed to have this happen.
I KNOW there is something greater than me that keeps the planets aligned!
IF that power can breathe me, keep the stars and planets in order it most certainly can fix any mess I make from self limiting beliefs or actions.
I choose to TRUST in that “invisible” power; which to me is very visible!
Not comfortable or happy in your relationship? How far on a scale of 1-10 are you willing to take action to make it better? If you said TEN or HIGHER call me and I will be happy to create a couple’s weekend for you and your mate or your group, organization.
There are many easy things that can be done to immediately lift a stale relationship back to fresh air!
Renew, recharge, revitalize and re-create your relationship by committing to a couples weekend!
Once you have done a weekend in a workshop, it’s easy to just create your own thereafter and continue to enrich your union with each other!
Many Blessings! I look forward to serving you!
Linda
